I shot this wedding back in April and I haven't had the chance to blog about it yet because I really wanted to put it on our new blog when it had launched, and of course with things getting all busy and revved up in full speed during last year's wedding season it got left behind. So with 2010 in full swing we wanted to post this wedding as we really got to know this couple throughout their wedding journey. The best thing about this wedding is that we know what a lot of brides go through in regards to planning their wedding: the stress, the pressure, the details, and the family. A lot of times that can drive someone bananas. When Stephanie and Sal first hired us their plans were to get married at The Pacific Athletic Club in Redwood Shores and literally a month and a half before their wedding date, they decided to scrap the big plans for good ol' SF City Hall. Here are some of my favorites from that day back in April, to see more of their wedding check out the slideshow here.
Below are the brides thoughts about why she felt the need to switch her plans.
"As I began to hammer out the small details like the cake, the flowers, the food, the favors....I began to realize that this is not how I imagined my event being. Once upon a time I think that I wanted to have a big fancy ceremony and reception with tons of people and a big wedding cake. I reflected back on the short questionaire that I filled out with Sal for our wedding planner. We answered a question about what we imagined our event being like on our big day. We had come up with the idea that we just wanted our event to really reflect who we are as individuals and as a couple and most importantly we wanted the people that were closest to us to enjoy themselves and have a great time.
Our wedding day began to morph into this event that was nothing like us at all. It was themed, was color coordinated, had a lighting scheme, and decorated chairs and printed programs. Sal pretty much left everything up to me, which is the way most brides want it. However, I found that I just didn't care enough about any of these things to want to get excited about them and to feel good about spending so much money on them. These are all things that can shape the whole atmosphere of an event, which is great but for me my wedding was about taking the next step with Sal who I've been with for 8 years. We've already shared so many things together including having a child, so all of these things just seemed trivial in comparision.
So I procrastinated and ended up really stressed to the point of having contant anxiety over what I really wanted. My best friend and maid of honor was the best through this whole process and she was the one who finally came out and said "If this isn't what you want make the decision now or you'll regret it for the rest of your life.". I realized she was right and although it was extremely scary to approach my mother and wedding planner about making dramatic changes at the last minute, they were actually quite understanding about it.
So after scrapping all of my original plans we had to start from square one. My wedding planner Sanford, who is also a former co-worker and a friend of the family, was great. He came up with a bunch of potential places based on my edited guest list and within weeks we ended up going with the Carnelian Room in San Francisco. Carnelian Room was great and was really the best place to accomodate our intimate sit down dinner while offering top notch service and incredible views of San Francisco. Since our reception would now take place in the city, everything kind of fell into place from there.
In the end I was able to share my wedding celebration with my closest friends and family. With the exception of the occasional issue here and there, my wedding was perfect and everyone who attended had a blast."